Yes we’ve all been conditioned to judge and be critical of things around us. We all judge others. Their actions, choices, behaviors. The first step in not judging others is to simply stop voicing it. This is usually the hurtful part and if you can learn to keep judging comments to yourself, you can quickly eliminate any hurt you are causing to others directly. Verbal attacks, sarcasm, snide jokes don't help, it only makes it harder to know that people can be so heartless. --If your heart is starting to nurture bad feelings against someone, if your mind is trying to tempt you into judging a person, try to crush these feelings. If you can’t crush them, at least hold your tongue and don’t spread it out to more people. If you keep it within yourself, the results are limited by the borders of your heart, but if you tell other people what you think, the effects are devastating. The old saying, "If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything!" is a perfect thing to apply here in this blog. Having a judging mindset still leaves that negativity built up inside you. Offering some help or assistance to someone in an area they are not excelling at, will be far more useful than telling them how poorly they are doing or by telling them how wrong they are. Look for ways to change the situation for the better. Wouldn’t you prefer an offer of help over an insult in an area you have not mastered? And life is something that none of us have mastered. We all make mistakes.
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and let it come in – Morrie Schwart
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